Born to be pisces

60 things to be grateful for in our lives

2011-08-23T04:03:00.000-07:00

1. Your parents - For giving birth to you. Because if there is no them, there will not be you.

2. Your family – For being your closest kin in the world

3. Your friends – For being your companions in life

4. Sense of sight – For letting you see the colors of life

5. Sense of hearing - For letting you hear trickle of rain, the voices of your loved ones, and the harmonious chords of music

6. Sense of touch - For letting you feel the texture of your clothes, the breeze of the wind, the hands of your loved ones

7. Sense of smell – For letting you smell scented candles, perfumes, and beautiful flowers in your garden

8. Sense of taste – For letting you savor the sweetness of fruits, the saltiness of seawater, the sourness of pickles, the bitterness of bitter gourd, and the spiciness of chilli

9. Your speech – For giving you the outlet to express yourself

10. Your heart – For pumping blood to all the parts of your body every second since you were born; for giving you the ability to feel

11. Your lungs – For letting you breathe so you can live

12. Your immune system – For fighting viruses that enter your body. For keeping you in the pink of your health so you can do the things you love.

13. Your hands – So you can type on your computer, flip the pages of books, and hold the hands of your loved ones

14. Your legs - For letting you walk, run, swim, play the sports you love, and curl up in the comfort of your seat

15. Your mind - For the ability to think, to store memories, and to create new solutions

16. Your good health – For enabling you to do what you want to do and for what you’re about to do in the future

17. Your school - For providing a environment conducive to learning and growing

18. Your teachers – For their dedication and for passing down knowledge to you

19. Tears – For helping you express your deepest emotions

20. Disappointment - So you know the things that matter to you most

21. Fears – So you know your opportunities for growth

22. Pain – For you to become a stronger person

23. Sadness – For you to appreciate the spectrum of human emotions

24. Happiness – For you to soak in the beauty of life

25. The Sun - For bringing in light and beauty to this world

26. Sunset – For a beautiful sight to end the day

27. Moon and Stars - For brightening up our night sky

28. Sunrise - For a beautiful sight to start the morning

29. Rain – For cooling you when it gets too warm and for making it comfy to sleep in on weekends

30. Snow – For making winter even more beautiful

31. Rainbows – For a beautiful sight to look forward to after rain

32. Oxygen - For making life possible

33. The earth – For creating the environment for life to begin

34. Mother nature - For covering our world in beauty

35. Animals – For adding to the diversity of life

36. Internet - For connecting you and me despite the physical space between us

37. Transport - For making it easier to commute from one place to another

38. Mobile phones – For making it easy to stay in touch with others

39. Computers – For making our lives more effective and efficient

40. Technology – For making impossible things possible

41. Movies – For providing a source of entertainment

42. Books – For adding wisdom into your life

43. Blogs – For connecting you with other like-minded people

44. Shoes – For protecting your feet when you are out

45. Time – For a system to organize yourself and keep track of activities

46. Your job – For giving you a source of living and for being a medium where you can add value to the world

47. Music - For lifting your spirits when you’re down and for filling your life with more love

48. Your bed - For you to sleep comfortably in every night

49. Your home - For a place you can call home

50. Your soul mate – For being the one who understands everything you’re going through

51. Your best friends – For being there for you whenever you need them

52. Your enemies – For helping you uncover your blind spots so you can become a better person

53. Kind strangers – For brightening up your days when you least expect it

54. Your mistakes - For helping you to improve and become better

55. Heartbreaks - For helping you mature and become a better person

56. Laughter - For serenading your life with joy

57. Love - For letting you feel what it means to truly be alive

58. Life’s challenges - For helping you grow and become who you are

59. Life - For giving you the chance to experience all that you’re experiencing, and will be experiencing in time to come

And last but not least… #60:

You.

For being who you are and touching the world with your presence. For being alive and reading this post. For giving me the chance to touch your life and fulfill my purpose to help others. You are the reason I live. Thank you.

Playing around with slides.com

2011-05-05T10:22:00.000-07:00

Melawan Kesepian - Siti Nurhaliza

2011-04-26T01:14:00.000-07:00

3 days 4 nights XPDC to Kundasang

2011-03-26T08:37:00.000-07:00

More info on 1st April 2011

Wasiat untuk suamiku & anak2ku

2011-03-21T04:57:00.000-07:00

Just incase i die during delivering the baby... here's something for you and the kids...

Tika mentari pagi mula menyinar

Dan burung-burung berkicauan penuh riang

Ikan-ikan berenang kegembiraan

Aku terbaca satu bait-bait puisi

Yang tercatat dalam sebuah risalah lama

Dari seorang insan bergelar isteri

Buat suami dan anak-anak yang tercinta

“Inilah wasiatku buat suamiku dan anak-anakku yang dikasihi

Semoga ia dapat mengingatkan kita betapa hidup ini

Adalah sementara dan pemergianku ini adalah satu perjalanan

Dari dunia yang sementara kepada satu dunia

Yang lebih baik dan kekal abadi…”

Pesanan ini membuatku penuh insaf

Airmata bercucuran membasahi pipiku

Bahawa kita semua akan berpisah

Dari isterimu untuk suamiku dan anak-anak yang tercinta

Siapa dulu yang dapat menemui TuhanNya

Siapa pula yang akan mendapat giliran seterusnya

Adakah itu satu perjalanan menuju nikmat

Atau pula jalan menuju azab siksa?

Pada suami yang mungkin sudah terlupa

Pandanglah wajah isterimu dengan penuh kasih sayang

Ucaplah kata-kata yang dapat menggembirakan

Kerana nanti sampai saat engkau tidak dapat lagi berbuat demikian

Tika engkau hanya dapat membisikkan doa dan surah al-Fatihah

Di atas hamparan kuburan yang masih merah

Waktu itu engkau akan mengetahui

Bahawa teman mu yang paling setia telah pergi

Buat selama-lamanya

Tidak akan ada pengganti yang semisalnya

Hanya kenangan dalam lipatan penuh indah

Yang belum tentu akan dapat mengubati luka hatimu

Oleh itu wahai temanku

Ingatlah pesananku ini

Damaikanlah hati isterimu

Dengan wajahmu yang penuh ceria

Agar nanti engkau tidak menyesal

Membiar waktu dan peluang keemasan

Yang dipinjam Allah buat kita semua

Dari kekasih untuk kekasih~..

For all my life living in that house, I have never felt happiness staying with a family who doesn't want me to be there...

Love you Danial Hakim

2011-01-01T01:42:00.000-08:00

PayBox

2010-11-22T03:56:00.000-08:00

PayBox

The story of us...

2010-11-09T06:09:00.000-08:00

Editing Class with Syazlie Shots and Rajawali Productions

2010-10-04T17:36:00.001-07:00

When? : Saturday, October 30th - Sunday October 31st 2010
Price ? : B$300/pax (Inclusive of notes/refreshments)

Grab the application form and sign up now! Registration forms can be obtained from Pengerusi Gemilang Foto, Faizal Gurie (+673-8985788 / +673-8145788. Registration duedate : 20th October 2010

Bloggers Rights Synopsis

2010-09-21T23:15:00.000-07:00

Tuesday, 21 September 2010 23:30
Title of talk: A Blogger's Rights and Responsibilities & the other legal issues on the use of Social Media in Brunei Darussalam
Speaker: Ahmad Jefri Rahman & Hjh. Rahayu bte Dato Hj. Abd. Razak
Date: Saturday, 25 September, 2010
Time: 2:30 p.m
Venue: 2nd Floor, The Law and Magistrate's Court Building

The Brunei blogging scene is alive and kicking. Like bloggers elsewhere, Brunei bloggers publish on a multitude of topics ranging from the mundane to those with attention grabbing content. There is a need for Brunei bloggers to be aware of legal issues arising from their online activity. There has been development of case law in neighbouring jurisdictions which has resulted in imprisonment for comments made by bloggers. Although no known cases have been brought in the local courts, the common legal background and systems of our neighbouring countries will provide some guidance on the likely outcome when similar issues come up for hearing in our courts.
The threats of legal repercussions in the form of civil lawsuits and criminal charges should serve as potent reminders of the potential legal problems that can arise from blogging, and any online activity, such as the use of social media that involves the expression of opinions and views. Most bloggers remain blissfully unaware of their liabilities for what they publish online. Many treat their blogs as merely an online version of their personal diaries or logs. However, they often forget that there is a difference in keeping a written diary for private use and one that is open to public viewing.

This discussion will consider some of the potential legal issues that may arise from blogging and the use of social media in the context of the laws of Brunei Darussalam. Its target audience are bloggers, parents whose children use social media, and members of the public who wish to know what they can do to protect their rights vis-à-vis . The aim is to create awareness of the rights as well as the responsibilities of bloggers to the extent that their activities may impact the freedom of expression that so many bloggers take for granted when navigating cyberspace.

Taken from the Attorney's General Chamber's website :
http://www.agc.gov.bn:81/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=162&Itemid=77

Im a photographer but Im not a pro yet...

2010-09-16T18:27:00.000-07:00

Need you guys punya comment.... hehehe...

Maroon 5 - Makes Me Wonder

2010-09-15T17:37:00.000-07:00

Listen Carefully to the lyrics... this is especially for someone I trusted long ago..

Syawal 2010

2010-09-11T08:20:00.000-07:00

Syawal this year was not so enjoyable like years before... I don't feel the happiness and I felt apart with my family... ;(

I don't feel the joyful being with my own family... Usually, 1st syawal we usually have berziarah with parents then we go to our grandparents... then convoy to other relatives house... and so on... I just don't feel it right now... I can't afford being sad anymore... I am not like myself lately...

Somebody promised me something but I just can't trust men right now... I don't feel good... Need to have a space of mine...

Babydoll Part01

2010-08-23T21:23:00.000-07:00

Code: SG41005Size: FREE SIZEBust: 86-102cmWaist: 58-79cmHips: 90-104cmColor: As ShownMaterial: Acrylic+ SpandexPrice: BN$38

2010-08-23T21:21:00.000-07:00

Code: SG41005Size: FREE SIZEBust: 86-102cmWaist: 58-79cmHips: 90-104cmColor: As

Leather Part01

2010-08-23T21:20:00.001-07:00

Code: SL61009Size: FREE SIZEBust: 86-102cmWaist: 58-79cmHips: 90-104cmColor: As ShownMaterial: LeatherPrice: BN$45

Wigs Part01

2010-08-23T21:20:00.000-07:00

Babydoll Part02

2010-08-23T21:19:00.000-07:00

Ramadhan Al Mubarak

2010-08-16T05:05:00.000-07:00

Salam Ramadhan buat semua...

Sad Monday

2010-03-28T19:18:00.000-07:00

Suddenly I am really not in a mood with anything today... after a while this picture really inspires me to continue to work hard for SUCCESS...

My day - Part 1

2010-03-24T07:24:00.000-07:00

Today is really a hectic day for me. Rushing here and there. Have to wait for the office opened just now. For this two days came to the office really early and for two days went breakfast with fai and linda. This week I have been very busy with work and also the preparation for our annual dinner. Annual dinner performance... hmm... kinda interesting... first year dancing... haha... its been years that I haven't dance and karau kali aa... hehhe...

I knew dancing few years ago masa masih single.. .LOL... my sister is going to laugh at me if im bluffing... haha... tapi banar... was involved in dancing for the public years ago... when i was still in college. Good thing was when I was slim.. haha.. ani kurang udah my weight and BOLEH LA>>>>> siapa cakap can't dance... hehe...

Beh, jgn u ketawa ah membaca my blog ani.. haha... I've been cutting my breakfast, lunch and dinner but once in a while ada jua ku makan... hehe...

Oh gosh..... gtg.... send hubby jap...

Play balls. pit falls... etc etc

2010-02-08T04:29:00.000-08:00

McDonalds, Burger king, Time Zone etc... All places with ball pits in the children's play area.

Hi. My name is Lauren Archer, a friends of mine that resides in The Hill , Johannesburg ..
took his only son to McDonald's for his 3rd birthday.

After he finished lunch, his parents allowed him to play in the ball pit. When he started whining later on, and his mother asked him what was wrong, he pointed to the back of his pull-up and simply said 'Mommy, it hurts.' they couldn't find anything wrong with him at that time. After bathing him when they got home, they found what looked like insect bites at the time.

Upon investigating, it seemed as if there seemed to be matter coming out of the wounds.
they were on our way to the hospital, but soon he started vomiting and shaking, then his eyes rolled back into his head.. From there, we went to the emergency room. He died later that night.

He was found to have snake bites all over his legs & buttocks. When they cleaned the ball pit they found that there was a snake's nest in the ball pit. He had suffered numerous bites from a very poisonous snake.

THIS WAS FOUND IN THE BALL PIT!!!!

Repost this if it scares you!! Repost this if you care about kids!!

Don't Take Panadol

2010-02-08T04:17:00.000-08:00

DON'T TAKE PANADOL AND PANADOL ACTI FAST AND PANADOL SOLUBLE ( ESP. PEOPLE HAVE GASTRIC).

FYI... One real story from a guy...

My husband was working in a hospital as an IT engineer, as the hospital is planning to set up a database of its patient. And he knows some of the doctor quite well.

The doctors used to tell him that whenever they have a headache, they are not willing to take PANADOL (PARACETMOL). In fact,they will turn to Chinese Herbal Medicine or find other alternatives.

This is because Panadol is toxic to the body, and it harms the liver. According to the doctor, Panadol will reside in the body for at least 5 years. And according to the doctor, there used to be an incident where an air stewardess consumes a lot of panadol during her menstrual as she needs to stand all the time. She's now in her early 30's, and she needs to wash her kidney (DIALYSIS) every month.

As said by the doctor that whenever we have a headache, that's because it is due to the electron/Ion imbalance in the brain. As an alternative solution to cope with this matter, they suggested that we buy 1 or 2 cans of isotonic drink ( eg.100PLUS), and mix it with drinking water according to a ratio of 1:1 or 1:2 (simply, it means one cup 100plus, one cup water.or 2 cups water).

Me and my husband have tried this on several occasions, and it seems to work well.

Another method will be to submerge your feet in a basin of warm water so that it bring the blood pressure down from your throbbing head.

As Panadol is a pain killer, the more Panadol you take, the lesser would be your threshold for pain (your endurance level for pain).

We all will fall ill as we aged, for woman, we would need to go through childbirth. Imagine that we had spent our entire life popping quite a substantial amount of Panadol (Pain Killer) when you need to have a surgery or operation, you will need a much more amount of general anesthetic to numb your surgical pain than the average person who seldom or rarely takes Panadol ... If you have a very high intake of Panadol throughout your life (Migraine, Menstrual cramps) it is very likely that normal general anesthetic will have no effects on you as your body is pumped full with panadol and your body is so used to pain killer that you would need a much stronger pain killer, Morphine??

Value your life, THINK b4 you easily pop that familiar pill into your mouth again. Please send this to people you care about.

Anang - Separuh jiwaku pergi

2010-01-24T02:28:00.000-08:00

I like this song...

GARS - Dixing Summit on the air (SOTA)

2010-01-21T05:15:00.000-08:00

Are you depressed -- or just disappointed?

2010-01-17T20:25:00.000-08:00

Now someone had to shop and cook, clear the table and do the dishes. The garbage had to be taken out every night. Piles of bills mounted. There was the question of who got to sleep through the night and who was on call when their new baby's colic kicked up at 2 a.m. It became more and more difficult to find time for sex. They were both too tired anyway.

No such thing as a perfect union

Resentments accumulated between these two busy professionals. Everyday demands overwhelmed their earlier vision of married life: a dream of four or five decades of thriving careers interspersed with romantic evenings and weekends. From the beginning of courtship through the initial excitement of moving into one or the other's small apartment, from the wedding ceremony through the honeymoon, being newly in love tends to hide or at least blur two people's differences -- particularly differences in needs for sex, for intimate time together, for autonomy and time apart, for planning and organization, for control over finances, for being with the children, and for freedom from parenting -- in just about everything.

The extraordinary experience of romantic love conveys the feeling that "the two of us are as one." But the daily tasks of marriage can quickly disabuse a couple of the notion that they have found such a perfect union.

As their different rhythms and preferences emerge in the course of living together, each comes to feel that the other is not, after all, the ideal partner who brings salvation from loneliness, deprivation, a sense of personal inadequacy, or other anxieties of the solitary self. "You are not who I thought you were," they tell each other. And from the depths of this disappointment, they often turn to accusing each other of deception, selfishness, or worse.

If you were to experience Shelley's and Franklin's unhappiness individually, you might think they both were depressed. But in my office, they reeled off their disappointments to each other. It was like witnessing a trial between two plaintiffs, each making a case for being the bigger victim, the major sufferer of unmet needs at the hands of the other.

Disappointment is a stage of love nearly every serious intimate relationship -- probably every one that lasts longer than overnight -- has to struggle with. It may strike suddenly or build up slowly, but once the battling begins, it can assume tragic proportions for a couple trying to make a life together. Oprah.com: Meet 3 less-than-perfect couples

The very first disappointment

We don't have to look very far to come upon a captivating tale about disappointment -- it is among our oldest and most familiar stories, the story of Adam and Eve in Genesis. Where else among the world's cultures does one find a creation myth in which human history begins not with magic animals or demigods or occult forces but with newlyweds engaged in doing what so many other married couples since have done: making bad judgments together and then blaming each other for the difficulties that they bring down on themselves.

Despite the best real estate on the planet, peace everywhere, no competition for mates, and all their needs gratified, Adam and Eve cannot leave well enough alone. Once they find something they can't have, they hardly seem interested in anything else. The forbidden apple is too fascinating to resist. Eve at least has the intellectual curiosity and rebelliousness to take the initiative. Adam is too busy being a good boy. When God shows up and demands an explanation, Adam declares that it was the woman's fault. Adam is the first in a long line of passive-aggressive males.

The famous pair wrapped themselves in fig leaves and took to the bushes after the apple made them aware that they were naked. Centuries of theologians have informed us that this discovery signified the first sexual shame. Maybe so, but I have a slightly different take. Adam and Eve had always been naked in Eden. What made the difference?

In the Garden of Eden, nothing changed, nothing grew, nothing died. Time never passed until Adam and Eve learned that the Fall meant that they would eventually die. It's mortality that starts the meter running. And nakedness under the regime of time is significantly different from nakedness before time exists. No more perfect youthful bodies forever. From now on, the hint of a potbelly here, the possibility of a sagging breast there.

In other words, I suspect that when Adam and Eve looked at each other through the filter of time, they were more disappointed than ashamed. "You are not who I thought you were," they might have been the first to say to each other after the revelation that nobody is perfect. But to love is to become aware of loss with further losses to come. I believe that this is among the major reasons that love makes us so anxious.

Falling in love leads to such monumental expectations of happiness that it can feel like the discovery of paradise. But falling out of paradise with regularity also seems to be our lot. What happened to Adam and Eve happens to all of us -- over and over again. There's nothing like thinking that you have failed at love to sharpen your knowledge that life is uncertain and the clock is relentlessly ticking. One tends to ask oneself, "If this relationship won't work, will I ever find one that does?" Disappointment measures the passing of time as a fall. It is one of our harsh reminders of solitude and aging and mortality.

Depression or disappointment

How can we bear to live with it? Here's where the difference between depression and disappointment becomes crucial. Faced with the prospect of loss, the person who gets depressed bypasses disappointment and rushes to the end of the story, even before the story begins. All is failure, decay, and rejection. When spring begins and the buds appear, the depressive is already dreading the leaves turning brown and falling off the trees.

Depression is a withdrawal from life. There is a kind of hubris in this withdrawal, as though being depressed were a way of saying, "this imperfect, difficult world is not good enough for me. Give me paradise or give me death." The philosopher Jean-Paul Sartre pointed out that depression is like a spell that a person casts over the world to make it utterly gray and uninteresting. Then you can tell yourself, "What's the use of trying? Why bother to get out of bed?"

The disappointed person lingers, however painfully, in the middle of the story, even though paradise has slipped through his or her fingers. Disappointment keeps you connected to life as it continues to unfold and places an important choice in front of you. It informs you that time has gone by and things have changed since you first risked investing in a cause or a career or an intimacy with another person. Neither a utopian outcome nor easy success nor bliss in love is just around the corner. Life is more difficult than you thought. The question is, what next? Are you going to take on the vital forces of life, despite limitations and imperfections, or pull the covers over your head as an exit strategy?

A patient of mine, a divorced woman in her 30s, a graphic designer, constantly bemoaned the lack of intimacy in her life. She told me that she was prone to black depressions, particularly on weekends. I found out that she spent weekends alone in her apartment, making no effort to contact the outside world. It was as if she were waiting for a Prince Charming to arrive and sweep her away. Apparently this rescuing figure had to do all the work; she wasn't going to budge.

Behind this repetitious and unpromising pattern lay a history of disappointment at the hands of the key men in her life. Her father had disappeared behind The Wall Street Journal at breakfast, and the rest of the time into his own unhappiness over his failed career aspirations. He didn't even bother to show up at school plays in which she sometimes had leading roles. She married young, having found a man who courted her enthusiastically. But before long he, too, disappeared -- into alcohol. She lost faith that any actual intimacy would meet her needs.

It became necessary to explore her deep disappointment rather than simply treat her depression. Disappointment has a future; depression doesn't. There is no where to go if you are already at the end of the story. With disappointment, the plot is still taking shape, even though there may be hard work to do -- such as, in the case of my patient, learning to tolerate the unknown of the future despite past suffering and to risk rebuilding a social life anyway. Therapy aims at helping people live in the present free from the compulsion to repeat the past, but you often have to dig down to find what gives rise to the repetition. Oprah.com: Are you depressed? Stay in control of your mind

Finding empathy

I am pretty sure that no amount of medication is going to make disappointment much easier to deal with. The challenge is how to live a good life in spite of disappointment. Among the least promising ways is to blame others. Partners who blame each other for what goes wrong in a relationship wind up acting like people pushing past each other to get on a crowded subway or bus, one saying, "I'm late!" and the other replying, "No, I'm late!" The result is an atmosphere of growing tension as the two defend the turf of their separate identities against each other.

What's needed to transform disappointment in a relationship into something livable in the present and useful for the future is that kind of empathy in which two people's selves take a backseat to a shared sense of each other's suffering. It is impossible to be defensive and empathic at the same time.

Empathy helps turn anger into sorrow. When sorrow becomes mutual, it begins to erase the lines drawn in the sand. Only then does the possibility of apology and forgiveness become real.

(OPRAH.com) -- I've been practicing psychotherapy for more than 30 years, and in my view a great number of people are running around thinking that they are depressed when it may be that they are simply disappointed.

Not that disappointment is merely a case of depression lite. It can cast heavy shadows over one's life, often with lasting consequences, especially when it occurs in love or career. As the character played by Shirley MacLaine in The Evening Star (the sequel to Terms of Endearment) put it, "Disappointment has ruined more lives than all the diseases known to man."

But it's not disappointment that ruins lives. It is the incapacity or the refusal to deal with life after disappointment.

There are plenty of roads that can lead to disappointment. But probably the heaviest traffic turns up on the one traveled by people in search of love.

Consider the plight of Shelley and Franklin, a couple in their mid-30s who came in together to see me for marital therapy. They had found each other six years earlier at a mutual friend's book party. Both were glamorous professionals moving steadily forward in their careers -- he as a creative young scholar at a major university who also writes a literary column for the Sunday edition of a newspaper, she with a big job in the media, producing documentary films for a national cable channel.

When their eyes first met, the din of the party seemed to recede and the room to light up for the two of them with a glow of promise. After a few months of Friday and Saturday nights together, they moved in with each other. Within a year, marriage felt right to both of them.

But marriage turned out to be a good deal more than they had bargained for. As singles living together, they'd conducted their lives separately. When they dined together, it was usually in restaurants

I consider this sequence -- anger, sorrow, apology, forgiveness -- one of the most important developmental passages in marriage or in therapy with couples because it is a prerequisite for the restoration of innocence. That may sound strange, but what I mean is not the first innocence of childhood or infatuation but a kind of second innocence, innocence after experience, which is free from repetition and thus can treat a new moment as new. Repetition kills love. To experience the next moment with a person as a new moment -- and therefore open to curiosity, surprise, even revelation -- is the heart of love.

A flourishing intimacy is likely to demand an extraordinary amount of empathic and patient cultivation from both partners. Unfortunately, what we experience growing up in our families or viewing ads of gorgeous couples zooming off for ski vacations in their new BMWs does very little to teach us that creating a satisfying relationship is a difficult but worth while discipline, like mastering a craft or an art form. The first drafts of love are usually in need of considerable revision.

Romantic love is beautiful, but no matter how full the moon that first night, no matter how many willows are weeping and birds singing your song, you can't build years of relationship on that lovely, fragile foundation alone. Everything I've learned from my work with people disappointed in love points to this conclusion: A mature relationship doesn't begin until after disappointment. Oprah.com: How to get good at love

By Michael Vincent Miller, Ph.D., from "O, The Oprah Magazine," 2009

NBT Sales Seminar - 9th January 2010

2010-01-14T02:01:00.001-08:00

NBT Sales Seminar 2010 was held recently at Rizqun International Hotel on the 9th January 2010. Present were our Managing Director, Mr Ninan Chacko, Hj Shahrum Kadir-our Senior General Sales Manager, Mr Low Eng Leng- Senior General Manager Finance & Admin and all the Sales & Service Managers. Invited Guest Speaker was Mr Mohiddin Arjo, former Head of Counselling and Guidance Section of the Ministry of Education.

Handbook 2010

2010-01-12T19:26:00.000-08:00

These sound like a good thing to try and learn from!
HANDBOOK 2010

Health:
1. Drink plenty of water.
2. Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince and dinner like a beggar.
3. Eat more foods that grow on trees and plants and eat less food that is manufactured in plants..
4. Live with the 3 E's -- Energy, Enthusiasm and Empathy
5. Make time to pray.
6. Play more games
7. Read more books than you did in 2009 .
8. Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day
9. Sleep for 7 hours.
10. Take a 10-30 minute walk daily. And while you walk, smile.

Personality:
11. Don't compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
12. Don't have negative thoughts or things you cannot control. Instead invest your energy in the positive present moment.
13. Don't over do. Keep your limits.
14. Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
15. Don't waste your precious energy on gossip.
16. Dream more while you are awake
17. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need..
18. Forget issues of the past. Don't remind your partner with His/her mistakes of the past. That will ruin your present happiness.
19. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. Don't hate others.
20. Make peace with your past so it won't spoil the present.
21. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.
22. Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn. Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade away like algebra class but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime.
23. Smile and laugh more.
24. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree...

Society:
25. Call your family often.
26. Each day give something good to others.
27. Forgive everyone for everything..
28.. Spend time w/ people over the age of 70 & under the age of 6.
29. Try to make at least three people smile each day.
30. What other people think of you is none of your business.
31. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch.

Life:
32. Do the right thing!
33. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful.
34. GOD heals everything.
35. However good or bad a situation is, it will change...
36. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
37. The best is yet to come..
38. When you awake alive in the morning, thank GOD for it.
39. Your Inner most is always happy. So, be happy.

Last but not the least:
40. Please Forward this to everyone you care about, I just did.

Why are men so closed and secretive when it comes to relationships and women can be so open?

2010-01-06T18:59:00.000-08:00

ANSWERS :

1 - Men can't multi-task.

2 - Women are emotional creatures that bond from verbal communication. Men generally aren't built for verbal, emotional conversation; but more for physical activities. It's not that we are secretive, but have no interest in sharing their feelings. If a guy opens up a little, a woman will pick-axe her way into his inner being. After learning that lesson, he is less apt to want to open up. Many women tend to be manipulative and go overboard in trying create scenarios based on some inner feeling a man may have expressed, turning a normal situation into a circus. Men have no need to visit their feelings, we don't usually know what our feelings are. Why think about something that don't want to, not see any point in what we will do with it if it comes up.

3 - This is obviously someone that is insecure about sharing his feelings. Yes men are built different in how they share their emotions. But, if a man is truly into you and wants his relationship to work, he will be very open and not "closed". Chances are he hasn't been very honest with you. He is probably in the relationship for convenience. Communication is the key to success in any relationship. It could also be that he was raised in a very closed-minded conservative household. Most men from a young age are taught to be tough. Showing feelings is a sign of weakness.

Break Ups Answer (taken from wikianswers)
My current boyfriend has been accused of being closed-off by exs. "I feel like I don't really know you." He is nothing like that, and he has been the same in all of his relationships. He is just quiet and introspective and doesn't much like to talk about how he feels. I almost never ask. On the occasions when I can tell something is really really wrong I will give him some space to tell me and if he doesn't I will ask. But not "What's wrong?" more like "Is everything okay?" Usually he tells me, sometimes he lies and says its fine and then tells me another day, sometimes he just says something is wrong but doesn't explain. That's fine. If he wants to talk about something he knows I will listen, not pry or badger him. If he doesn't, sometimes it almost drives me crazy but I let it be. He hugs me all the time, always lets me pick the restaurant, listens when I need an ear and tries everything I enjoy at least once. I know he loves me, respects me and would never hurt me and thats all I need to know.

What is the meaning of rudeness?

2010-01-06T18:47:00.000-08:00

As you can see from the various answers below, there are different interpretations of what is rude. Generally, rude behaviour does not involve consideration for others feelings. However, cultural and situational differences can change the expectations of what is acceptable. For example, in some societies, brushing against a person is a minor intrusion and in others it is a very rude invasion of one's personal space.

Answer
Lacking tact or manners, like not "excusing yourself" while brushing by someone in a crowd.

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I wouldn't call not excusing yourself to everyone you pass ill mannered, because in a crowd you'd get tired of excusing everyone you pass/brush.
I would say rudeness is not really a big issue with me but jumping the line for example is a mild form of rudeness.

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I'm just fed up with trying to get my brother to play properly. He's always saying bitter remarks and "that's rubbish" when I give him my game to play with for example - it reflects back at you and you ask yourself why does he annoy me whenever he doesn't like it? Its not my fault that he is playing that game. It might sound mundane but it feels like you give a nice present and then enjoy it - and then return it to you and say that was crap I'd say get stuffed.

Acting in a manner that could possibly offend someone, whether it does or not.
When u say somethin mean to a grown up like u dress like crap.
When ur words and behaviour r insensitive to other people's feelings then it can be termed as rudeness.

If someone is talking with you and you cut them off saying "I don't care." or "I don't care about !" that is rude. Don't even talk to with them anymore then if you don't care about what they have to say. I hate when people do that to me. Also, saying "Whatever..." or "Whatevs".

Because of you

2010-01-03T08:14:00.000-08:00

Just want to share my favourite song this week : Ne Yo - Because of you, goes out to all the lovers out there... Gosh I'm falling in love with this song... repeated the track almost all the way... :> Enjoy

Because Of You lyrics

[Verse 1:]
Want to, but I can’t help it
I love the way it feels,
It’s got me stuck between my fantasy and what is real
I need it when I want it, I want it when I don’t
Tell myself I’ll stop everyday, knowin’ that I won't

[Bridge:]
I got a problem and I don’t know what to do about it
Even if I did, I don’t know if I would quit but I doubt it
I’m taken by the thought of it, and I know this much is true
Baby, you have become my addiction, I’m so strung out on you
I can barely move but I like it

[Chorus:]
And it’s all because of you [3X]
And it’s all because…
Never get enough,
She’s the sweetest drug

[Verse 2:]
Think of it every second
I can't get nothing done,
Only concern is the next time, I’m gonna get me some
Know I should stay away from, cause it's no good for me
I try and try but my obsession wont let me leave

[Bridge:]
I got a problem and I don’t know what to do about it
Even if I did, I don’t know if I would quit but I doubt it
I’m taken by the thought of it, and I know this much is true
Baby, you have become my addiction, I’m so strung out on you
I can barely move but I like it

[Chorus:]
And it’s all because of you (all because of you) [3X]
And it’s all because…
Never get enough,
She’s the sweetest drug

Ain’t no doubt, so strung out [2X]
Over you, over you, over you

Because of you,
And it’s all because of you,
Never get enough
She’s the sweetest drug, she’s the sweetest drug

2010 New Resolutions

2010-01-02T04:23:00.000-08:00

Hey peeps.. I'm quite bored staying at home today. I have listed out my new resolutions for Year 2010. Hoping that I could reach these by the end of Year 2010. Just need to squeeze it into my diary..

1. Lose weight & Exercise more
2. Quit smoking & Drinking
3. Stop bad habits
4. Stop eating meat
5. Visit my family more
6. Spend less money/ Save more money & Become more cost-effective
7. Embellish a new persona
8. Take time out for the greater good
9. Doing something a little extra for the person i love
10. Stick to the budget
11. Become more organized
12. Be more patient at work/with others
13. Become a better person
14. Donate to the poor more often
15. Become more environmentally responsible
16. Become more assertive
17. Get out of Debt
18. Save Money
19. Reduce Stress
20. Be more independent
21. Learn something new
22. Volunteer to Help Others
23. Be Less Grumpy
24. Enjoy Life( No Worries)
25. Reach office on time
26. Spend time with love ones, friends and family
27. Go for Trips & Outings
28. Say no to junk food
29. Workout & Exercise
30. Achiving my DREAM

I took a week to list this out though... hehehe

Got you in action

2010-01-02T03:27:00.000-08:00

Someone I caught in action using my macbook while I was sleeping today... hmmm...

okay... this is a bit scary..

so cute!!

and now she's pretending to sleep...

My eldest daughter is trying out my new macbook today... she spent most of the afternoon to browse through my mac while I was sleeping... so cute eh... I have some more pictures to post but all the pictures are very funny and its censored... heheh... Happy weekend everyone and happy weekend also to my love...

Happy New Year 2010

2009-12-31T02:16:00.000-08:00

Hello peeps... Happy New Year 2010 to everybody.. What is your new resolution??

WORK??

2009-12-29T17:48:00.000-08:00

This is how stressful I am if my work was done by somebody else who thinks that she is perfect doing eveything. Though she is not... hhehe... I wish I could just walk out from here and do my own business... so stressful

Very upset

2009-12-25T09:44:00.000-08:00

Woke up late at 2pm yesterday. Took shower and went off for brunch at the restaurant nearby. Honestly, today I went through 2 disappointments and both really upsets me a lot. When you think about it you really regret it and plus the sad thing is you cant reverse the past.

I can't even sleep well today thinking of it. I end up updating my blog and downloading softwares for my mac...

I really cant sleep..

Jason Mraz - Im Yours :>

2009-12-25T04:08:00.000-08:00

Texting While Driving 6X More Dangerous than Talking

2009-12-25T03:36:00.000-08:00

By David Coursey

A University of Utah study tells us something we should already know: That texting while driving is six times more dangerous than talking on a handset while driving.This is a message that has eluded many, but we can help.

Here's the gist:I keep seeing people who are texting while driving during the workday in vehicles with company names painted on them. So, it must be time for a safety reminder, one I hope our always safety-first PCW Business Center readers will share around the office.

Researchers used a driving simulator to measure reaction times. The participants "drove" down the road, following another vehicle. They tended to follow too closely and when the other vehicle braked, tended not to respond very quickly. Crashes sometimes occurred as a result. In real life, injuries and deaths would follow.

If you'd like a copy of the study results, you can download a PDF for free from the Human Factors and Ergonomics Society, which published the study.

The only qualm I have with the report is that the average age of the 40 participants was 21, when I know lots of older people text while in motion--I see them frequently. Let's not stereotype kids as the only unsafe drivers.

In one of my other lives, I spend a lot of time with our local ambulance crews. Over my years as a news reporter, have seen things I hope never happen to you or your family. If you want a reminder of what you are missing, the old driver's ed safety film, Signal 30, is available for viewing on YouTube or for free downloading from the Internet Archive.

Dragnet's Jack Webb also gave a compelling demonstration--using photographs--of what happens during the first second of a 55-mph collision, the last 3/10ths of which nobody in the car survived. No, they don't make safety films like they used to, though it seems like we need them as much as ever.

Sure, cars are safer now than when the Signal 30 was filmed 50 years ago, but only if we use the safety features available to us.

You'd think people would have gotten the word on seat belts and shoulder restraints by now, yet a shocking number of people are still dying because they aren't used.

If the idea of being thrown from your car and then being crushed when it rolls over you is appealing, be my guest.

Or don't use a child seat and have your toddler shoot out of the back window of the family van. Sure, there weren't any other seats available, so the kid was in the back, and it was a short trip. And now the kid is dead.

Texting and cellular use while driving are almost as senseless. Yes, I know phones ring and text messages appear while we drive, but use a hands-free device (which helps some) and avoid the temptation to read-and-respond with one hand on the wheel.

And did I mention drinking-and-driving? Or how you--the sober one--could be the only thing standing between a drunk friend and death?

It happened last New Year's, about 3 a.m., driving the wrong way on the Interstate near my home. The head-on collision killed five, three in the other car. The at-fault driver had just left a party with too much alcohol on-board.

A bad wreck? The responding firefighters and EMTs were sent to counseling afterwards.

As volunteer EMT and husband to someone who still has occasional nightmares about a wreck she responded to three years ago, I am using this column as a means to drag you in for a safety reminder and apologize for doing so.

Yet, I've learned that life is more fragile than we'd like to think. It's a message I have to share, especially around the holidays.

Matahariku - Agnes Monica

2009-12-24T03:23:00.000-08:00

Youngsters taught to save for their future

2009-12-24T03:07:00.000-08:00

FITRI SHAHMINAN & QURATUL-AIN BANDIAL

TUTONG, Wednesday, December 23, 2009

SIX children from single-parent households in Tutong District were provided early exposure to personal finance yesterday after they were given the opportunity to open personal bank accounts through the Belaian Kasih Project of the Gemilang Association from Tutong.

The children were also given a headstart in their preparations for school next year when the association took them to a bookstore in the capital to buy stationery and school supplies.

During an account passbooks handover ceremony at Bank Islam Brunei Darussalam (BIBD) Tutong branch, Tutong Religious Department's Chief Religious Officer Hj Ahmad Hj Mohin said that most bank customers prefer to apply for personal loans rather than save.

Through personal loans, they could acquire what they desired quicker, but also ran the risk of falling into heavy debt afterwards, he said. Based on that scenario, he explained, it has been proven that everybody wants a good lifestyle, and to achieve it, they are encouraged to save.

Hj Ahmad said that savings could improve their income and help them achieve a better standard of living.He added that it was vital for parents to teach their children at a young age how to manage their money as it enabled them to set their goals in life.

Hj Ahmad then handed over the BIBD account passbooks to the youngsters. Before the handover, a briefing on the Cemerlang Savings Account and the importance of saving for the future was presented by Hj Persidi Ahmad Hj Sunting, manager of BIBD's Tutong branch. "The purpose of the account is to inculcate a culture of saving and encourage responsible financial management at a young age," said Khairul Salleh Kamaluddin, the branch's assistant manager. "The amount saved is not important but the purpose is to discipline them on how to save," he emphasised.

Two anonymous donors deposited $60 for each of the children to open the accounts.In commemorating their fifth anniversary in September this year, the Gemilang Association initiated a project of adopting "orphans" born in 2004, the year the association was set up. *The project, named the Belaian Kasih Project, aimed to provide financial assistance to children who lost their father.

Six children identified and selected under the project are to be taken care of by members of the association through arranged programmes throughout the year. However, they would still be under the care of their mothers or guardians. "Our aim is to provide the role of the other parent (father) for at least 15 days throughout the whole year. That includes monitoring their academic progress, getting them more involved with religious activities, taking them on holidays and other things that a parent would do for their children," said project leader Hj Bahrin Halimi Hj Md Zin. He added that Gemilang aims to see the children complete reading the 30 chapters of the Quran by the time they turn 12.

The children were taken on a bus ride to Bismi Trading in Gadong, to buy school supplies through the sponsorship of Gemilang. For many of the children, 2010 will be their first year at school.

Five-year-old Sazalina Norainah Salehuddin was just a babe when her father passed away in 2005. Her mother, Azlina Abdullah, from Kampung Sengkarai in Tutong, has struggled to raise four daughters on her own. "I receive monthly assistance from the Community Development Department (Japem), but it has been difficult to manage with four daughters and bills every month," she said.

Azlina said that encouraging her youngest daughter to save from a young age will be the key to her future.

"I want to encourage Sazalina to deposit a little bit of her savings account every month and hopefully, one day she can use that money for her studies," she said. Joshua Jasni, whose father passed away three years ago, looked happy when The Brunei Times caught him going through the bookstore.

His mother, Paya Ingan, said that she depended on assistance and support from her relatives, friends as well as Japem to raise her seven children. The unemployed mother said she would encourage Joshua to save now that he has his own bank account and would teach him the importance of financial management.

Courtesy of The Brunei Times

*My Note : This project should be named "Belaian Kasih Gemilang"... need to have proof reading first lah before publishing... apoorah

Merry Christmas Everyone

2009-12-24T03:02:00.000-08:00

Merry Christmas Everyone.. Happy Holiday and Happy New Year

What am I thinking??

2009-12-23T01:15:00.000-08:00

Today I am officially on leave and I am over the stress already. There is more to come and I need to focus myself before I go back to work next week. There will be more reporting and also preparing end-of-year reports.

During on leave I need to make myself available for the kids.... and love one (he he).... Its time to let the pressure out and focus myself with my family. Get myself out of the house and go grab a real holiday... was thinking about our 2nd honeymoon but due to time constraints and also a lot of things going on lately then..... its officially off and cancelled...

I am going to smile

2009-12-20T08:29:00.000-08:00

I am going to smile like nothing's wrong, talk like everything's perfect, act like it's all a dream, and pretend it's not hurting me

Think about this :

2009-12-20T08:27:00.001-08:00

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I am bored today...

2009-12-20T00:44:00.000-08:00

What should i say? What should i do? I am lonely and I'm bored. Good thing there's internet and kids to be with.

Last night was fun, had dinner and hangout with our KB Branch staff. Luckily we had dinner and karaoeke. Kalau makan saja better makan dirumah.... hehe.. I felt empty and lonely all day. I can't say more though. Today hangout with my daughter and karaoeke with her all afternoon.

We sang all the Project pop song and end up laughing pasal the video clip silahau2 and the song pun very funny.. well this is my day... with the kids... esok kerja and 2 more days for my leave. will be back to work on the 30th.. Cheers guys, hope your day wont be as bored as mine...

What is love?

2009-12-20T00:34:00.000-08:00

2009-12-18T08:32:00.001-08:00

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Miss u

2009-12-18T08:09:00.000-08:00

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I missed him

2009-12-17T23:35:00.000-08:00

I missed him today.... missed him everyday... missed him a lot :

The day in the salon

2009-12-12T23:22:00.000-08:00

Good day everyone... I had my hectic day in the saloon nearby yesterday...Okay, this is not a critic but I totally looked like a hush puppy with this new hair... haha... I was longing for a long hair with curly ends.... first impression that i felt was, can this hairdresser do this??.. I didn't trust her in the beginning and i was scared that my hair would turn out worser than this....

Just imagine this : - she trimmed my hair for half an hour, then rolled up hair for half an hour, and I was sitting there another 1 and a half hour for my hair to dry... and yes, there's no dryer chair available and my neck was cramping....huhu

Went to bandar town and had a lite snack with V8NFA & V89MKJ... hehe two bodyguards going out with a hush puppy.... went home around 11pm and straight away to bed..

you know what i mean ??? --- >>look at the hush puppy...

Photo shoot with Danial

2009-12-12T23:14:00.000-08:00

I just love to take pictures.... and i just love editing the pics as well. Im beginning to love Photoshop!! hehe.. A picture of me and my son, Danial was taken in our room. The background was actually our wardrobe... Nice.... :>

NBT Hilux ATV Promo Lucky Draw

2009-12-11T16:17:00.000-08:00

Yesterday NBT had their Hilux ATV Promo Lucky Draw.. pictures taken by our professional photographer - erdie... hehe... thanks erdie

HRM Graduation Picture

2009-12-10T20:00:00.000-08:00

hehe... thank you boss for giving the opportunity... this is my present to achieve the NBT HRM Programme

A Glass of water... correct time

2009-12-08T16:25:00.000-08:00

Correct timing to take water, will maximize its effectiveness to Human body.

Two (02) glasses of water - 30 minutes before meal - Help digestion
One (01) glass of water - After waking up - Helps activate internal organs
One (01) glass of water - Before sleep - To avoid stroke or heart attack
One (01) glass of water - Before taking a bath - Helps lower blood pressure

With Love..

2009-11-29T05:42:00.000-08:00

A picture of me with my 2nd daughter, Nur Daniella Amalina

Im Blogging again!!!

2009-11-20T04:21:00.000-08:00

Hello all, its nice to have a new fresh blog again. I just cant wait to write something today :>